4 Ways to Find Yourself Again When You Feel Lost as a Leader

As leaders, we are always learning in our field, growing as a person, and honing our leadership savvy. Leadership is a journey of mastering our own thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, so that we can succeed and serve others well. No matter what level of success we achieve as a leader, self-mastery is one area than always leaves room for more development.

Leading your own life well is foundational to being able to lead your team, organization, and family well. Self-leadership is the ability to leverage your behaviors, so that you can use your knowledge, resources and habits to serve others well. The process of developing your own leadership growth is relatively simple if you will make these four habits a regular practice.


You can bring value to others by being who God created you to be by knowing your personal TAGS: talents, abilities, giftings and strengths. The more you know about your inclinations, personality, leadership style, and energy flow will better equip you to live and lead the way you desire. So many resources are available to help you discover more about yourself. Consider using a spiritual gifts assessment or strengths survey as a good starting point.


Taking the information you know about yourself and accepting it, not just as ‘good enough’, but as ‘truly good’, is key to living and leading authentically. God created you on purpose, with purpose, for purpose. He gave you the ingredients you need to make the life He designed for you. Your job is to accept yourself, embrace your TAGS, and engage in life and leadership with them. Daily meditating on who God says you are will build your confidence to be exactly who God intends for you to be – that is the most important identity to embrace.

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Who do you want to be? Who are you know? What is the gap? The equation of these three questions will continually reveal your development areas to you. Want to be a great delegator? Currently not delegating any important work? Identify two projects you can delegate this week, get with a strategy coach if needed to develop a plan of execution, then delegate! Want to be a more involved mom, but currently only have family dinner once a week? Schedule time for family dinner around the same table at the same time at least three times next week. Identifying the gap is the catalyst to creating the change steps needed to become the kind of leader you want to be. Spend time examining your thoughts and feelings about those three questions. From the answers to these questions, you are able to project a path for improvement.


You don’t have to do this all on your own. Gather ideas and encouragement from others who care about you and your success. Consider a 3600 feedback survey from various colleagues, friends or family members that have a reciprocal investment in your success. Schedule a strategy session to help you break down blind spots and create a growth plan.

You are the common denominator in all of your relationships. You are the only one who can change your own skills, feelings and behaviors toward greater success. Great leadership always starts with self.


Self-leadership is just one of Five Essential Distinctives of Leadership Success. Click here to get a helpful infographic to learn more about the others.